Its not surprising that people are seeking some relief from the pandemic and all it brings into out daily lives, hoping it will be better. Perhaps you began the New Year with positive thoughts for a solution or at the very least, positive steps for managing the changes that has been threatening us all, in many different ways
The insecurity and worry often undermines our capacity to have maintain positive feelings and reminds us that we don’t actually have control over everything in our environment. Although, how we interact with our environment, can have a huge impact on how our day progresses and it also can affect those around you. Day by day you can impact on your whole year.
Lets start with today. When you woke this morning what was the first thing you noticed about the day? How did that feel? Ask your self “Is there something I could change about that moment of waking up for the day?”
How we wake up can influence how the day goes ….. it doesn’t have to, if it starts a bit rough, try not to allow the day to be totally affected.
Moment by moment we can change how we feel – influenced a great deal on how we are thinking – stop for a moment and check your thoughts and how that is impacting on how you are feeling.
Feelings offer us feedback – they are telling us something – reflect a little on what that feeling is and where it is coming from.
If the feeling is ‘dull’ and the thought is that ‘its another crappy day’ then it’s quite likely what it will be’ – what we give attention to in our thoughts is where our energy will be directed. Reflect on where you could redirect that energy.
To do this we have to challenge or let go of some previous ways of thinking, which may be based on a previous time, a previous experience – we might be required to reassess our response to change the outcome – to change something we may have to do something different
‘If only’……this pattern of thinking assumes that what is happening now is not working and that something else needs to happen for it to be different, except it may have a shadow of that ‘something else’ is being controlled by someone else. What parts can you influence? What can you do to influence the outcome you want?
While our brain does respond well to repetitive behaviour, mainly because it has done it before and knows what to do, but it does actually notice when something is different and is stimulated by that.
Are there some behaviours that have become commonplace in our lives but don’t actually enhance it – or maybe it does for a while but then it becomes habit, but lost its use.
What repeated behaviour could you get rid of ?
If you are you struggling to find an alternative way of thinking , or area of focus you may benefit from talking to a counsellor
There is an opportunity to look forward in the way you want to – the future can have an outlook that seems more attractive, more sustainable.
A counselor may be able to assist you to recognise a wider range of possibilities, help you identify the most important issues, and develop strategies to develop the strength to move forward in a direction that seems to fit. This would be without judgment and no bias toward a particular destination.
Call or text Di on 0414 728 884 and book your first session